Self- Esteem; Decrease
Personal Insecurity and Anxiety,
I know the word
"self-esteem" can be over-used at times,
but isn’t it true that we are hardest on ourselves? Expecting too much from
ourselves, never feeling as though we're done, comparing ourselves to other
people, subtly seeking approval from others- it’s just an exhausting way to live.
Find the inspiration to treat yourself better and find your own happiness
within, therefore becoming more effective in your external interactions. The
and centered in yourself you are, the more capable you become and the more
energy you free up to be productive.
is self–esteem important in your life? There is no judgment as important as
the one we pass on ourselves. How you feel about yourself; the degree that you
like yourself; the degree that you are satisfied with yourself right now, in
this moment, is a thread that runs through every element in your life.
It crucially affects almost every aspect of our experience –determines so much
in your life to include:
you treat yourself and others.
you allow others to treat you.
mate you attract.
career you have.
income you earn.
How you function at work.
How you function in love.
The way you operate as
you are at anything you try.
What do you believe you
deserve out of life? That’s important to ask yourself, because that's exactly what you’ll allow yourself to receive.
If at any deep level- conscious or subconscious, you don’t believe you deserve
happiness or success, you will self-sabotage yourself- knowingly or unknowingly.
Is it selfish to want to have self-esteem? No!
Genuine self-esteem is not competitive; it’s not expressed at the expense of
others. It’s not a quest to make oneself superior to others or to diminish
others to elevate one’s self. One of the most significant
characteristics of healthy self-esteem is that the person is neither at war with
himself or herself or with others. In fact, we all come into the world with a
natural, high sense of self-esteem. In the absence of self-criticism, we all
have inherently high self-esteem.
Learn how to:
where your initial sense of self-value came from – your childhood. Who
taught you your value in life? Is that accurate?
that you don’t need to live out a “script” that was handed to you from
your past- you can change it! So, ask yourself- have you left home yet
what self-esteem really is in a practical sense- it’s what you say when
you talk to yourself. To what degree do you like yourself? We are constantly
either stabbing ourselves in the back or patting ourselves on the back with
the things we say to ourselves.
that it’s going to be a mental process. Your thinking will need to change,
which will change your feelings and beliefs and then your behavior.
that how you feel about yourself directly affects
your levels of stress.
the power of your mind. You become what you think about most of the time,
and everything you give language to will manifest itself. What you focus on
is what you attract.
Thought recognition techniques- can you hear what you're thinking?
that you have control over what goes on inside of your own head. If you
don’t, then who or what who does? Is it worth it to you to give away your
power like that?
to the most common cognitive distortions
of the universe
a “rapid response” defense system to combat the inner critic-the 5
methods for disproving automatic thoughts.
on the offensive - re-program your inner subconscious “tapes” from the old,
irrational, negative messages to the person you want to be using
three keys to writing and using affirmations.
how to put your mind into "neutral" periodically to enhance
creativity, concentration, and relaxation. Would you agree that we “think
to use the powerful mental tool of visualization to imagine, or
“image-in” exactly what it is you want to manifest in your life.
keeping yourself constantly running throughout life and feeling
as though you’re never done by setting daily realistic goals using the
“anti- run” to do list.
more easily with overwhelming workloads, unrealistic
expectations, and daily dramas that cause stress and burn out.
perfectionism by coming to terms with what it’s costing you. It keeps you
constantly “running” and feeling as though you’re never done because
whatever it is your doing or focusing on can always be better than the way
it is right now. Have you ever met a perfectionist with a sense of inner
peace and fulfillment?
over generalizing about parts of your body that you perceive are not optimal
by using the body esteem scale.
in touch with what you are grateful for and what is going
well in your life, and be able to remind yourself and return to it quickly.