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Be Here Now

Studies show at least half of our thoughts are about something other than what’s happening now. We’ve all heard about the value of keeping our attention in the present moment. This is easier said than done, especially nowadays. However, there are a few things you can do to help...

Be Your Own News Director!

We forget when we’re watching a newscast that what we’re seeing is not everything that happened. It’s a selection of stories. Decided upon by whom? The news director! The media has figured out that they get the best engagement with stories that either scare or enrage us. Likewise, our...

Your Internal Fake News

Your brain discriminates negatively since it’s doing its outdated and obsolete job of keeping you safe from physical danger. We must embrace that the default state of our brains is delusional. Your inner critic is a liar. It’s not your fault and doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with...

Change the Subject!

My late grandmother, known as Nana, was a master at changing the subject. She lived in 96 and was a chain smoker. She would do this whenever we’d bring up something she didn’t want to get into, as in, “When are you going to stop smoking?” She’d simply (and...

Find Some Shades of Grey

One of the biggest causes of self-inflicted pain is the thought distortion known as all or nothing thinking. All-or-nothing thinking means thinking in extremes. You are either a success or a failure, lovable or unlovable. Your presentation was either totally good or totally bad. If you are not perfect,...

Listen to the Noise

I’ve written much about ignoring the noise and viewing with prejudice. But sometimes the noise is valuable, and it can be trying to tell us something. Whatever you want to call it— the gut feeling, sixth sense, intuition, or voice in the background, it can hold important information. When...

Treat them like a foreign invader!

Our amazing immune systems help prevent infection by fighting foreign invaders such as bacteria, viruses, or other pathogens. It includes Pattern Recognition Receptors, or PRRs; molecules which recognize a wide variety of foreign invaders. Once recognized, the body takes drastic action when they first appear, since it immediately sees...